Friendship is NOT about whom you have known the longest. It's about who came, and NEVER left your side.
Friendship is perhaps one of the deepest bonds in human life forged through mutual trust, unconditional support and selflessness. It is quite difficult to confine the true meaning of friendship within just a few words. Elisabeth Foley, writer, describes this relationship as something that "doubles your joy and divides your grief, and the most beautiful discovery that true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart."
Understanding the true essence of this much cherished bond remains difficult without patience and mutual respect. While this beautiful relationship has much to offer you in terms of joy, support, and emotional stability; it can test your patience at times as well. It is during these trying times that your commitment towards building an everlasting relationship with your friend is tested the most. There are times when you might your friend in a particularly irritable mood.
There also might be cases of serious disagreement with your friends on certain issues. However, your equation with your companion shouldn't be affected by momentary quarrels or outbursts.If you can successfully sail through these times you can look forward to establishing a precious bond in future. Be by your friend's side when he/she needs you the most, particularly in times of grief. You may not be able to console your friend by words of solace. But that really doesn't matter. Your presence, even in the midst of silence, serves to speak volumes of your support for your friend.
True friendship stands for an unflagging emotional connect that cannot be created in a day. You might like certain people on first interactions. But meaningful friendships are only formed when both you and the other person are willing to nourish and cultivate the relationship more.
What is friendship? What is the meaning of this relationship? We have often sought answers to these questions, yet we have never come up with an adequate answer. This is because this relationship is an amalgamation of beautiful and complex feelings, which may not often be described in words. Defining a relationship is never easy, as there are so many facets to it. However we don't need a bunch of words to make us realize the deep meaning of friendship
We are human beings, a social animal who lives in a world surrounded by family friends and acquaintances. But, in today’s virtual world, the boundaries between real and fake friends are blurring. We get everything online; shopping, friends, online chats, gossip and knowing about how one is doing in life. What impacts do these things have on our life? We are at a loss to tell as of who is a real friend and who is a fake friend? One thing that is to be seen first and foremost before making friends is that a person who stands by you through thick and thin are real friend/ friends rest all are mere acquaintances. Knowing your real friends is not a rocket science. Just look for the following signs in a person and decide if they are your real friends or fake ones.
A real friend will always be ready to share anything and everything with you (of course it should be a commodity not your boyfriend/girlfriend). If you have any last minute jitters he/she will always be there to sort that out for you and the sharing will always be mutual. As for a fake friend he/she will always be ready to borrow your things but would rarely have anything to offer/share with you.
A true friend is the one who gives you an honest and uninhibited advice. A True friend will always be your councilor, advisor, teacher, and sometimes a mentor too. They will never mislead you or keep you in any kind of oblivion. But, fake friends are more of back stabbers who would be there to subtly use you for their own benefit.
A real friend will try to cheer you up even in most gloomy situation. He/she will always find one way or other to pull you out of your gloomy shell and as for a fake friend they will pretend to be around but will never really connect with you or even put in any effort to cheer you up. A real friend will know you inside out. Even the slightest change in your expression will be very much visible and understandable to them. They will be able to read each other’s mind with mere eye contact.
No matter how worst the fight between you, true friends will never let small trifles or disagreement to get in way of their friendship. They are really forgiving to the core. Small things never become a prestige issue for a true friend. On the other hand, a fake friend is filled with dark ego, not only they will be unforgiving; they might even go to any length to take revenge on you. Beware of such friends.
A true friend will always find a remedy for your faults. He/she won’t be the one to point fingers at you instead they’ll be the ones to help you recover from a worse situation by finding a remedy to whatever has been done. They will be the one to help you do the damage control. On the other hand a fake friend will keep blaming you for anything that went wrong and would rather find solace in bombarding you with cheap criticism.
A real friend can make out what is wrong without even your telling. If feeling stuck in any situation, they emerge as your saviors and would know what to do about the situation. A fake friend would not even bother to call up and ask if everything was alright. A real friend will be there for you even at the wee hours of morning or midnight without any hesitation but a fake one will surely have ample of excuses.
A true friend is like a vault that guards all your secrets. He/she will never let out any of your secrets, be it as small as sneaking a bar of chocolate from grandma without mom’s permission or as big as sneaking away with your dad’s car. All your darkest secrets will always be in vault, safe and secure. A fake friend on the other hand will always gossip about you behind your back, even trying to lure you into telling your secrets so that he/she could get some new gossips to dwell on. Beware of such gossip mongers.
A friend that encourages you to pursue your dream and stays with you in hardships is a real friend. A fake friend will always try to show a dread picture of insecure future and fill you with negativity and doubts about your talent.
Every time you experience a heart break, he/she would be the first one to come up with a chocolate and cupcakes and lend you a shoulder to cry on and spend time cracking stupid jokes and trying hard to humor you to bring you out of your gloomy zone. A fake would advise you to let it go and stop acting like a cry baby.
Last but not the least a true friendship is always a symbiotic relationship of two people wherein each one is equally concerned about the other and there is genuine adoration and mutual respect. On the other hand a fake friend is like a parasite that thrives on only one person’s efforts and inputs. Why waste energy and time in such negative relationships with friends who do not have anything to offer but are ready to suck the sap out of you.